Comments on: Child Abuse Stories http://www.childabusestories.org Learning and Healing Through Child Abuse Stories Tue, 17 Jan 2012 09:39:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Lindagail http://www.childabusestories.org/arties-child-abuse-stories/comment-page-1#comment-1233 Lindagail Sat, 10 Dec 2011 12:05:53 +0000 http://www.childabusestories.org/?page_id=66#comment-1233 Hello Brittany, Know there are online resources for you to get support. We Are Survivors is a great one (http://www.wearesurvivors.org) Isolation is a huge factor in this crime. If you have told your mother, ask her to get you counseling. This is the kind of crime that affects you long afterwards in ways that you don't even realize until years later. It affected the friends I chose, the men I married, they way I parented my own children, and the level of education I could attain. My self esteem was low and I lived most my life in a deep depression. Hello Brittany,
Know there are online resources for you to get support. We Are Survivors is a great one (http://www.wearesurvivors.org) Isolation is a huge factor in this crime. If you have told your mother, ask her to get you counseling. This is the kind of crime that affects you long afterwards in ways that you don’t even realize until years later. It affected the friends I chose, the men I married, they way I parented my own children, and the level of education I could attain. My self esteem was low and I lived most my life in a deep depression.

]]> By: Brittany http://www.childabusestories.org/arties-child-abuse-stories/comment-page-1#comment-1231 Brittany Sat, 10 Dec 2011 00:10:07 +0000 http://www.childabusestories.org/?page_id=66#comment-1231 Wow.. The same thing happened to me. Only it was my dad that was drunk and couldn't control himself. And we didn't stay in a hotel. We went home. When we got home, my mom went out to the store. While gone, my dad sexually and physically abused me. When my mom returned, she found out what had happened but was too scared to leave him. So this went on for seven years. We finally got out of that situation about 5 years ago. Im 15 by the way. I've only told four people, including you now. It's a very hurtful thing, and I wish there was something we could do to help other kids in this situation. Some kids, including me, never went to counseling or told anyone. Just held it in, because they thought it was normal or they deserved it. <- Not the case at all. No one deserves it. I'm really hoping to get involved in a group that helps children like us. I hope you are inspired enough to also. Keep telling people you're story and making differences. Much luck, Brittany Wow.. The same thing happened to me. Only it was my dad that was drunk and couldn’t control himself. And we didn’t stay in a hotel. We went home. When we got home, my mom went out to the store. While gone, my dad sexually and physically abused me. When my mom returned, she found out what had happened but was too scared to leave him. So this went on for seven years. We finally got out of that situation about 5 years ago. Im 15 by the way. I’ve only told four people, including you now. It’s a very hurtful thing, and I wish there was something we could do to help other kids in this situation. Some kids, including me, never went to counseling or told anyone. Just held it in, because they thought it was normal or they deserved it. <- Not the case at all. No one deserves it. I'm really hoping to get involved in a group that helps children like us. I hope you are inspired enough to also. Keep telling people you're story and making differences. Much luck,

Brittany

]]> By: admin http://www.childabusestories.org/arties-child-abuse-stories/comment-page-1#comment-8 admin Mon, 30 Nov 2009 15:07:37 +0000 http://www.childabusestories.org/?page_id=66#comment-8 Dear Neena, Know that you did nothing wrong. You are a precious child who deserved to be protected from these horrible experiences. There are many books out there that might bring you a sense of not being alone in your journey. I'm not going to recommend a particular book, as when you go looking, the right one will speak to you. You will be drawn to it. I usually check out reviews on Amazon.com and armed with that information, I check my library and local second hand book stores. Because you were sexually abused, you have layers of damage to your psyche that I know nothing of, other than the knowledge of how much deeper the damage goes. I encourage you to reach out to a therapist who specialized in sexual abuse. Don't let anyone minimize what you have been through or tell you "it's in the past, just don't think about it" or "get over it" or (my favorite) "you just need to forgive them" (No you don't.) The choice you have before you is to reach out and begin the healing process or continue to stuff and minimize the feelings. They won't go away, though some try to drown them out with alcohol and drugs. As you begin your healing journey, know that allowing yourself to feel the pain of what happened to you is not near as hard as having lived through the experiences you have. Your a brave strong soul to have survived. I wish you light and love. Artie Dear Neena,

Know that you did nothing wrong. You are a precious child who deserved to be protected from these horrible experiences. There are many books out there that might bring you a sense of not being alone in your journey. I’m not going to recommend a particular book, as when you go looking, the right one will speak to you. You will be drawn to it. I usually check out reviews on Amazon.com and armed with that information, I check my library and local second hand book stores.

Because you were sexually abused, you have layers of damage to your psyche that I know nothing of, other than the knowledge of how much deeper the damage goes. I encourage you to reach out to a therapist who specialized in sexual abuse.

Don’t let anyone minimize what you have been through or tell you “it’s in the past, just don’t think about it” or “get over it” or (my favorite) “you just need to forgive them” (No you don’t.) The choice you have before you is to reach out and begin the healing process or continue to stuff and minimize the feelings. They won’t go away, though some try to drown them out with alcohol and drugs.

As you begin your healing journey, know that allowing yourself to feel the pain of what happened to you is not near as hard as having lived through the experiences you have. Your a brave strong soul to have survived. I wish you light and love.

Artie

]]> By: Neena http://www.childabusestories.org/arties-child-abuse-stories/comment-page-1#comment-6 Neena Mon, 23 Nov 2009 06:01:08 +0000 http://www.childabusestories.org/?page_id=66#comment-6 Reading the last two made me cry. I used to be physically abused by my mother and sexually abused by my older brother and uncles I still think of the things tht happened and I always thought it was my fault. That I had done something wrong and that I deserved to be hurt. But after reading these I realize that it wasn't. Not at all. Thank you. Reading the last two made me cry. I used to be physically abused by my mother and sexually abused by my older brother and uncles I still think of the things tht happened and I always thought it was my fault. That I had done something wrong and that I deserved to be hurt. But after reading these I realize that it wasn’t. Not at all. Thank you.

]]> By: admin http://www.childabusestories.org/arties-child-abuse-stories/comment-page-1#comment-4 admin Wed, 30 Sep 2009 16:21:55 +0000 http://www.childabusestories.org/?page_id=66#comment-4 Thank you Tiffany. Though it has affected just about every aspect of my life, it has also made me the person I am. I appreciate your supportive sentiments. Thank you Tiffany. Though it has affected just about every aspect of my life, it has also made me the person I am. I appreciate your supportive sentiments.

]]> By: tiffany http://www.childabusestories.org/arties-child-abuse-stories/comment-page-1#comment-3 tiffany Sun, 27 Sep 2009 22:08:16 +0000 http://www.childabusestories.org/?page_id=66#comment-3 wow i have seen so many kids get abused and this kind of stuff happen.. its very sad and artie i am sorry that this had to happen to you. hopefully you have over came that issue but i know it will never leave all the way everything stays in the mind even when you think it will go away. just be strong and dont let anyone else treat you like that you are human and do not deserve to be treated that way at all! wow i have seen so many kids get abused and this kind of stuff happen.. its very sad and artie i am sorry that this had to happen to you. hopefully you have over came that issue but i know it will never leave all the way everything stays in the mind even when you think it will go away. just be strong and dont let anyone else treat you like that you are human and do not deserve to be treated that way at all!

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